In his first volume of poetry (in search of happiness) it says succinctly in a poem by Houellbecq:
“Why can we never, never be loved?”
And, I believe, that's the whole poem.
But nothing more needs to be said. Because that's roughly the whole problem, that “love” in
does not occur in nature. And by nature we do not necessarily love anyone or do not love anyone at all (except probably the mother,
that we at least love, until we hit puberty! And of us ((mother)) usually to be loved somehow).
BUT: Because we are not loved and we are left in love, and there is no longer any god, who loves or distinguishes us for it,
when we treat our neighbor with a minimum of warmth, we would have to look, how we solve the problem:
Certainly not by suppressing the problem and pretending to be, as if.
To die of loneliness in a society, who pretends to be tolerant, loyal, to be communal or even loving,
leads to a strange chasm. To aggression.
A polar mix of aversion and attraction, Antipathy and sympathy: short: Chaos, we don't like, which is why we as a society are probably made up almost entirely of rules. To control all human emotions.
Dann ist da das Problem, that the, the one of the rule; namely decency and respect, would have to set an example
don't do this. So they fail in mere duty!!!!
Honestly, I don't know a solution.
To show warmth only in the small family, I find it unsatisfactory. An evasion. A stifling of energy.
Also a form of exclusion. Why is nobody talking about it?
But yes, apparently we can no longer trust nature, just as or why we don't either
can trust more, which is why we have all these rules of propriety and political correctness
have set up. Is it, because we have so re-modulated this nature and on
modulate without an end in sight?
But, as we see, schafft eine so “sophisticated culture” no climate of trust. The public
The room remains cold and inhospitable. And I never got that: that show of human warmth
are not publicly visible. That you have to look for them, in special institutions or associations, im
Profession or today on the partner exchange.
Nice, it is really nice, when you just meet a warm person in public.
A human, of the, who knows why, still has enough cordiality, that it is for somewhere, anyone
a little is enough. It doesn't have to come too close to you!!! On the contrary: my ignorant neighbor, who looks right through me, although we all hear our intimate noises from one another; that's too close to me! His refusal to agree to deal with them!!
(Did he steal my chair in front of the house?)
A few years ago there were still providers of “Free Huges”.
I wouldn't have had the confidence, To get me that close. I was already then
so, that I care too much “outer shell” and was drawn to looks, of charm.
For me, this charm should shine through people. Then I wanted to stop!
But the Free Huge offer is a strong sign of dealing. Much nicer than all Tinder exchanges with their thousand rules.
We cannot be loved. If we don't forget that, then maybe we can
be decent. No idea.
A real shame, there is no solution.
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When i then – pretty late – felt, that i can't be loved,
I really wanted to be desired as a woman.
A total fight! A constant ambivalence!
Is it a miracle there?, that I loved and hated all latently misogynistic poets as poets,
so also Houellbecq, because he said things about women from the point of view of men, which is so cruelly true
are? At least from the point of view of a slightly crippled one, of love for a man who has been neglected!!!!
I loved the misanthropes in the books (Cioran, Houellbecq, Nietzsche, etc.) and unfortunately
also some of them in real life. Isn't it obvious?, that a misanthrope, of this
felt strange aversion to people in general, these also developed against women or
because feels even more pronounced?
I've never really cared about a man, bei dem ich dieses Schwanken nicht auch
felt. I loved assholes and sexists! Or was the desire?
Apparently I think so, that feeling one “distance” and “Segregation” Not
equates to the lack of personal human warmth!!!
That's the crazy thing: that people with extreme views or inconsistencies sometimes do something completely different
radiate! And that other, which are edgeless and positively smooth and so-called “good people”,
are often so closed, that one freezes in their presence, it must support and nourish with its nourishing negativity, his stupidity…..
(4.9.21)